I always knew that starting to write articles about reflections would be some sort of a very tricky job, however, in spite of knowing that, it’s also something that I could not prevent myself of doing.
As human beings, we long for human interaction, craving in the most deep and hidden places of our mindsets for friendship, love and understanding. Even thought some of us might not say or admit so, we all look for it, it’s an extension of human nature itself and one cannot avoid it.
The key here is how we envision ourselves in these relationships and how does one enjoys them. What do I mean by this? Simple. But first let me explain you my concept of time and living.
You see, life for me it’s just this. A game. But indeed just this. We are not prepared for this mortality, we are not prepared for this mortal way of living. So men, as creative and deep thinkers, try to create a system where one is allowed to live forever. And, as far as I see it, we do so, not because we intend to live for eternity, but because we have the need to forgive ourselves for the things we don’t do and hope that we will have another opportunity in a different life or in heaven to make up for our mistakes or the things we didn’t do during life. As for me, I’m tormented by a very different vision of reality, time and space. As I said, life for me it’s really just this, after we die there’s nothing, we don’t even have the perception of being nothing. And this perception of reality has allowed me to live life in a very different and particular way. It lets me enjoy every single moment, the present and the most little things of life, at the fullest, because I know that I won’t have another chance to enjoy them.
And here is where most people fail to understand the true sense of living. In the so-called developed countries, one can live up to 80 years, 60 of which are spent doing nothing more than working. We focus too much on the mundane aspects of life and once we realize that we haven’t experienced as much as we wanted to, we want to go back in time and make up for our mistakes. But time only moves forward and with it we grow old and wise, wise enough to start building this perception that we are no more than mortal beings and that soon everything will come to an end.
But this perception, this way of seeing things, it’s kind of a double-edge sword. Once you have something, it allows you to appreciate all of mother earth’s gifts at their maximum potential. But when you loose something… That’s when things get complicated. Why?
Because you know that you lost a connection, you’ve lost something or someone in your life and you will probably never get another chance to enjoy that person’s energy, that person’s way of being, smile and memories. And once you loose something or someone, having this kind of perception… It’s horrible… It’s truly horrible, because you know how much you enjoyed spending your time with this person, you know how great those memories and old times were, you know how good everything was, and then you feel this sense of loss, because you appreciated all of it and you know what you are loosing. Of course there are a lot of people out there, a lot of things to enjoy and so on. But a connection like that one? You might have one like that, but exactly the same? Never. And this is what makes you sad above all. The connection is lost and you cannot help yourself from having this incommensurable sense of disturbance.
But I would rather have and lose and then having and never think about this person or thing again. Loss makes us stronger, make us gain experience and make us, if we didn’t perceive that before, appreciate at some point of our lives, how happy we were in the moments we were with these people, and it teaches us not to make the same mistakes again.
Nevertheless, this is how everyone should perceive life and time. I’m not saying that this is the holy grail of wisdom or that this way of seeing things is the correct one. What I’m just asking is a very simple thing, and if you didn’t get it yet, here it is then:
ENJOY THE PRESENT.
ENJOY THE MOST LITTLE THINGS OF LIFE.
Appreciate and try to understand the one next to you, enjoy every single second with that person, be kind, always, but most of all, appreciate that person’s soul and way of being, enjoy diversity and the fact that everyone is different and unique and that you won’t find anyone like that ever again. Because that’s the true out of it. If you heard before that everyone is replaceable, that’s a lie. We are all our own selves and for more that we want, there are not copies of ourselves. It enhances you to understand every single part of someone’s past, present and future. It takes human experience to its fullest and it teaches us understanding and compassion, how to live by each other’s happiness and not by each other’s misery.
I love my friends and family, but with this perception, I can love them even more and enjoy every single moment I spend close to them. And as Carl Sagan once said,
“In the vastness of space and the immensity of time, it is my joy to share a planet and an epoch with Annie.”
This is how we should perceive what and who surrounds us from now on.
And this is how you turn 80 years, your perception of time, how you modulate things according to your own, into an endless adventure and how you turn you despicable and mortal reality into a wonderful journey.